7 Practical Self Confidence Tips
How we feel about ourselves determines our attitude toward everything in our lives. Positive thinking has proven to increase productivity, and a healthy dose of confidence can inspire you to pursue the things you really love.
Feeling good about yourself can push you to change your life for the better. Here are a few practical tips to keep in mind when trying to banish the negative thoughts, and instill belief in yourself.
1. Courage is not the absence of fear.
It’s hard to remember in a humiliating situation, or amidst a life-changing decision, but feeling afraid doesn’t mean you lack strength. Courage is not the absence of, but the act of overcoming fear. Tell yourself that the anxious adrenaline is merely a response that makes you human, not weak or unable to face the task at hand. The first step in building confidence is allowing yourself to feel afraid, and then teaching yourself ways to overcome that fear.
2. Doubting yourself is lying to yourself.
Fear brings self-doubt—the enemy of confidence. You cannot be a confident person if you constantly battle a lack of faith in yourself and your abilities.
Don’t be ashamed to pick up a self-improvement book next time you’re out. Overcoming fear and self-doubt is something that happens over time with positive thinking. For many, the easiest way to combat negative thoughts is with logic. The next time you doubt yourself, tell your brain to “stop making uncertain things certain.” Even if you think you do, you really don’t know until you try! The only true failure is not attempting success.
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3. Be your own best friend.
People, circumstances, jobs and houses change, but you will always be there. Learning to cultivate a healthy inner dialogue will help you make decisions more effectively, move past mistakes, and confidently tackle new goals. Become familiar with your inner voice by journaling.
Reading a self-improvement book and writing about what you’ve learned afterward helps reinforce the message. Not only that but when you put it into your own words, you’ll grow accustomed to your unique writer’s voice. Don’t criticize it—embrace it, and recognize your voice in your own head.
4. Know thy self.
It may sound cheesy, but date yourself for a while! You don’t always have to end your current relationship, but make more alone time for yourself and discover the things that make you happy. Try a few new things, walk around a store and see what catches your eye, or pick out a new bed spread you think says “you” all over it. When you shop for self-improvement books, ask yourself which one you’re drawn to, and what kind of person you want to be. Don’t be afraid to learn about yourself—odds are, you’ll like what you find.
Knowing yourself will give you the confidence you need to feel great. The more you can predict your behavior, likes, dislikes and preferences, the more familiar your choices will become. The confidence you will develop in your ability to choose the right thing will last you a lifetime.
5. A healthy body contributes to a healthy mind.
The positive endorphins released during workouts improve your mood and optimism. The healthier your body is, the better you’ll feel about how you look, and the more confident you’ll become on the inside.
6. Make time to get ready in the morning.
We all know how our day will go when we skip a shower or dress sloppily. Set yourself up for success by taking the time to shave, shower, do your hair and wear something you feel good in. Instead of trying to fit into a style trend, put on some clothes that feel like you. Don’t be afraid to try out a few unconventional styles if you feel drawn to them. You never know where your creativity will take you!
7. Surround yourself with an encouraging atmosphere.
This means decorate your living space or desk space with things that make you happy and encourage optimistic and productive thoughts. Staying organized will help you feel happy, and more on top of your life—so keep your clothes folded and papers filed.
In addition to taking care of your material items, be mindful of the people you surround yourself with as well. If someone in your life is sucking your energy or bringing you down with constant criticism, it’s time to confront them and say you expect more. You deserve to be treated kindly and respectfully.
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