Times When It’s Okay To Not Be Independent

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We recently celebrated Independence Day here in the U.S., and that got me thinking, is it always best to be independent?

In terms of this holiday and American History, it seems to have worked out for us. But what about on the individual level?

Do you pride yourself on being described as fiercely independent or self-sufficient? Although there are definitely some advantages to leading an independent way of life, asking for help and leaning on others is okay, too. That’s especially true with some of the situations outlined below.

When You’re Sick or Hurt

Not feeling well can put you into an uncomfortably vulnerable situation, especially if the injury or illness is severe enough to require the care of a doctor or stay at a hospital. Thoughtful people tend to respond generously when they hear someone they know is unwell. If you get offers for help when you’re trying to get back on your feet again, don’t be afraid to accept them gratefully and willingly.

Consider whether the assistance would relieve some of the burdens you’re facing and provide you with more time and energy to put towards making a full recovery. Someone who offers to cook dinner for you or take care of some house-cleaning tasks might be instrumental in helping you conserve your strength for other things.

Keep in mind that not feeling like yourself can also be caused by mental and emotional struggles. Those may not be as visible as physical ailments, but they’re no less deserving of support.

When You’re a New Parent

Raising a child is a huge responsibility, and it’s one that most parents admit includes both joyful and stressful moments. As a new parent welcoming a newborn into the world, some say the nail-biting times of uncertainty tend to outweigh the periods of parental bliss.

If you’re having trouble figuring out how to sacrifice a bit of independence and admit to seasoned parents that you need a little advice, check to see if there’s a group for new parents in your community. Sometimes when you’re in an informal setting and realize you’re surrounded by people experiencing similar struggles, it causes you to feel empowered. Eventually, you’ll likely reach a point where you fully understand that asking for help is never a sign of weakness, and especially not when you’re a new parent.

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If You’re Launching a New Business

Life as an entrepreneur can be hectic, and it’s easy to get so wrapped up in things that it’s difficult to see the establishment as outside parties do. What would differentiate your company from its closest competitors? How could you change things moving forward to avoid some of the setbacks you’ve already experienced? Those questions are important to answer, but it’s often hard to do so objectively if you don’t have an outside perspective.

If someone kindly offers guidance as your business gets off the ground, it could be extremely useful in dispensing knowledge akin to what your target audience is thinking. It’s also useful to get advice about the common challenges that entrepreneurs face. Even if it feels like you’re the first business owner in the world to go through a particularly tough situation, that’s probably not the case. Even Richard Branson, the business mogul, suggests seeking help from the moment your business gets started.

After a Relationship Breakup

No matter which one of you decided to break things off, dealing with the end of a relationship is typically difficult. Being independent immediately afterwards might feel like the most appropriate thing to do, especially if you’re trying to prove to yourself you’re capable of surviving and thriving without the influence of a significant other.

During those trying days after a relationship has ceased, however, you may find a great deal of comfort and strength through simply talking to a trustworthy friend. Healing can begin to take place even if you’re merely watching a favorite movie with a pal you’ve known for a long time, or enjoying a dinner together. Companionship can provide the security that’s often necessary to process things that may be overwhelming to think about alone.

There are several scenarios when it’s definitely okay to not be independent. When you need a listening ear or helping hand, know that it’s okay to accept help.

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